Dating keeping conversation shy
(Yikes, because there was no such gun.) I’ve come a long way since those days largely because I started videotaping myself so that I could see how I come across to others when I’m talking.
For dating purposes, try taking a video of yourself as you say hello and ask your date a few questions.
The truth is that shyness isn’t a turn-off to others, so remember that the next time you feel nervous or shy around someone new.
is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
Yet overcoming shyness isn’t just about learning tricks to use to start conversation.
One technique that helps many of my clients is to take your thumb and index finger on one hand and press them together with medium pressure.
Do it for a minute or an hour, whatever works for you.
The behaviors I highlight above all work to get you out of your head and into the moment so that you can enjoy your date in real-time – not just survive it.
My final reminder is that nothing breaks the ice quite like plain old honesty, so don’t be shy – ahem – about telling your new date that you’ve had the shy bug for years.