Dating married man going through divorce
You deserve a great guy like that, but one who can be there for you. 'I'm very flattered that you want to date me however I am not comfortable even socializing with you until I see a copy of your divorce filing.If you do file, I'm willing to see you socially during the daytime without physical touch until your divorce is final." This helps you to not bond or be too devastated if he does go back to his wife, realize he doesn't want to break up his family, lose custody of their pets, or decides he needs some "me time" after you have been his shoulder to cry on for his divorce.One couple I knew had been separated for five years, the wife spoke with and approved of her husbands potential girlfriend, and yet when he fell in love with the girlfriend, the wife fell apart and threatened to ruin his reputation with their children. And, as you know, most women, no matter how unhappily married, harbor a hope deep inside that their husband will "get it" and change and come back to them.So, even if he tells you his wife is a big meanie, he chose HER out of all the women he met to pledge his life to and she often hopes he will come back and they can be happy again.
While there's nothing wrong with dating a guy who's been previously hitched, there are some potential issues that can crop up.How to date a married man and not be miserable or get hurt.I'm going to address this directly to women to avoid mental, emotional and physical trauma.So, what do you do if you meet the most wonderful man?In addition to continuing to date at least two to three other men at all times until you are feeling comfortable committing, here is how to handle a man. This means that he and his ex-wife a) filed for divorce, which requires a public legal document, b) waited the mandatory waiting period for that state (it can be 60 days up to a full year), c) took care of any custody and financial issues, d) submitted these to the court and e) the court approved the dissolution of the marriage -- also public information.