Go dating just friends
“From my experience, women hate the idea of clearly explaining their interest.
It may not be as ‘romantic’ as you’d like, but at the end of the day, if a guy is not sure about your interest, he won't swing.”3. Be honest with yourself: Are you on the fence some of the time, unsure if you want to move your friend chemistry into a full-blown relationship? Jeff, a 45-year-old ad agency owner, instantly hit it off with a female co-worker, who he was interested in pursuing after he moved on to a new job. A collection of mixed signals, like skipping my goodbye happy hour and ghosting me on some texts that dropped hints about grabbing dinner,” he says.
The attraction he feels is more of a slow-burn instead of fireworks.
“I think people felt they had to pick sides, and then the two of us didn't want to hang out anymore while the other was around.”And, of course, there's always the chance that he digs you as a friend and nothing more.
“Relationships, platonic or otherwise, are initiated out of mutual interest or compatibility, and the draw of attractiveness is certainly a primary factor,” says Ivankovich.
“But since many of the same characteristics that we would seek in a romantic relationship are the same ones we seek in a platonic relationship, it is no surprise that many friends find each themselves interested in each other.”If it hasn’t gone anywhere just yet, here’s why—from the perspective of single men.1. If you only see your guy friend sporadically, you might not be on his relationship radar just yet.
You two have obvious chemistry—you flirt, you chat, you hang out—but the buck stops there. Since this generation of singles is more emotionally-evolved than ever before, traditional dating norms have basically been tossed out the window, says psychologist Karla Ivankovich, Ph.
D., a professor of psychology at the University of Illinois, Springfield.