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From my years of field research, I can assure you that a White man can be just as commitmentphobic, misogynistic and unreliable as a Black one.As disappointing as this may be to the sistas who have bought into the Myth of the White Knight, .Fear and race mongering are hardly the foundation of a credible solution in matters of the heart.Many things can be explained through facts and figures, but I doubt that the myriad of difficulties that can exist in love and marriage can’t be solved by social theory.Maybe these marriages fare better because many who are willing to cross the color line have a mindset that is more flexible and open minded, qualities that are essential to the success of a long-term union?For the record, I’m not anti-interracial relationships; however, I am against "solutions" that villainize Black men and victimize Black women while simultaneously deifying White men.I know from personal experience that two people from different worlds will have to work extra hard to understand what it means to be in their significant other’s racial shoes.Another point that Blanks made in his argument for interracial relationships was that the typical eligible and successful Black man he is a commodity and will use this to their advantage with women.
It seems that Black women have bought into this sensationalistic message, paving the way for a small army of (allegedly) well-intentioned Black men peddling relationship advice to Black women to become wildly successful (and wealthy) all for teaching us how to think more like them while acting like us.But to say that the answer for Black women desperately seeking wedlock is to marry a White man is unrealistic and overly simplistic.According to a 2011 Pew Research Study, marriage rates are declining amongst women are unmarried, yet, I don’t know of any White, Asian, Hispanic or Inuit professors standing up and telling their women that the answer to the decline in marriage in their community is to marry someone outside their race.“Black men being in short supply means they can dictate the terms of the relationship and they often dictate terms that are not to the woman’s liking.” Let me get this right: one of the reasons why successful Black women should pursue relationships with successful White men is because a successful White man is more likely to create a relationship of “equals” with a Black woman than a Black man because successful White men want nothing more than to be in a relationship with a woman who is his equal?*crickets* I’ve heard more than a few of my professional sisters come straight out and say some variation of this statement while declaing "forget about Black men and their non-appreciating behinds." They’re looking to become the next Mrs. I’m a Black woman who has dated White, Hispanic and Black men.